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Benefit: Live Well with Your Wives

In the Name of Allāh, the Ever Merciful, the Bestower of Mercy

Shaykh Muḥammad Amān ibn ʿAlī al-Jāmī (رحمه الله) stated: “It is not from living well with women that a wife is constantly threatened with divorce.”

Source: Qurrah ‘Ayūn al-Muwaḥḥdīn, pg 39.
Translated by: Musa Shaleem Mohammed

Benefit: Marriage Condition: Don't Marry a Second Wife?

In the Name of Allāh, the Ever Merciful, the Bestower of Mercy

It is known that in Islām the male may marry up to four women, if he has the ability, can be just between them etc.  Although the common question that arises is what if there is a condition stipulated upon the male, stating that he may not marry a second woman, is such a condition valid? Or is it bāṭil, because Allāh has made it ḥʿalál for him to marry the second? Our brother Mūsá Richardson discusses this issue.


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Benefit: Marry a Pious Woman

In the Name of Allāh, the Ever Merciful, the Bestower of Mercy

Shaykh Muqbil ibn Hādī al-Wādiʿī (رحمه الله) said: “It is important that a man chooses a pious woman so she can assist him in his religion and his worldly affairs.”

Source: آداب النكاح
Translated by: Musa Shaleem Mohammed

Benefit: Separating the Beds Has No Benefit If You're No Use to Her Anyway

In the Name of Allāh, the Ever Merciful, the Bestower of Mercy

  Ustādh Mūsá Richardson discusses the wisdom behind separating the beds and how it is un-impactful in cases where the husband is not beloved to his wife and would be dearly missed otherwise. 

From the course entitled: Fiqh Course: Marriage and Divorce (الملخص الفقهي), during the 1439 | 2018 Islamic Summer Courses

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Benefit: She Contemplates Avoiding Marriage Fearing Disobedience!

In the Name of Allāh, the Ever Merciful, the Bestower of Mercy

In response to a two-sided question posed regarding sisters who avoid marriage out of the fear that they would disobey their husbands and go to hell, and why women make up the majority of inhabitants in the Hellfire. Our beloved brother, Abū Khadījah, offers some advice based on the authentic Sunnah.


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Benefit: Should We Marry a Fornicating Couple When the Girl Gets Pregnant?

In the Name of Allāh, the Ever Merciful, the Bestower of Mercy

  Ustādh Mūsá Richardson answers a question concerning a couple who fornicates and the girl gets pregnant, can they be married? If they make tawbah, are the effects of this act (in this world) removed? 

From the course entitled: Fiqh Course: Marriage and Divorce (الملخص الفقهي), during the 1439 | 2018 Islamic Summer Courses

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Benefit: Supplicate for Newlyweds

In the Name of Allāh, the Ever Merciful, the Bestower of Mercy

  On the authority of Abū Hurayrah (may Allāh be pleased with him), the Prophet (ṣallallāhu ʿalayhī wa-sallam) used to congratulate newlyweds, saying:

(( بَارَكَ اللهُ لَكَ، وَبَارَكَ عَلَيْكَ،
وَجَمَعَ بَيْنَكُمَا فِي الْخَيْرِ. ))

"May Allāh bless you,
send down His Blessings upon you,
and unite you both upon goodness."

It was collected by Abū Dāwūd (2130), at-Tirmidhī (1091), and Ibn Mājah (1905).  This is at-Tirmithī's wording, who called it ḥasan-ṣaḥīḥ.  Al-Albānī graded it ṣaḥīḥ.

Benefit: The Dowry: Make It Reasonable, Don't Delay It

In the Name of Allāh, the Ever Merciful, the Bestower of Mercy

  Ustādh Mūsá Richardson discusses the the dowry, its important purpose, cultural differences (and living standards) in applying it, defining a reasonable sum and not delaying it. 

From the course entitled: Fiqh Course: Marriage and Divorce (الملخص الفقهي), during the 1439 | 2018 Islamic Summer Courses

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Benefit: The Wisdom of Marriage - The Fallacy of Dating

In the Name of Allāh, the Ever Merciful, the Bestower of Mercy

The  scholar and dāʿī, Dr. Muḥammad Taqi al-Din Al-Hilāli[1] said, "....And in the Sunan of Ibn Majah the prophet (ṣallallāhu ʿalayhī wa-sallam) stated, "From the things that makes a man happy is a righteous wife whom whenever he looks at her she pleases him, whenever he commands her she obeys him, and whenever he is absent she is faithful with herself and his wealth" Ḥadīth ḥasan (ḥadīth no. 1857).

So look - may Allāh have mercy on you - at this ḥadīth which illustrates therein a very high wisdom from the lips of the one who has been given concise, eloquent speech that contains much profound meaning. For indeed herein he summed up the conditions for a happy martial life: 

1. The first one is that the woman is attractive in the eyes of the husband
2. She willingly fulfills his requests and does what he wants; and this is the sign of true love 
3. He trusts her and she trusts him. Hence if he is absent for a long or short period, he will be rest assured that she will safeguard her honor and integrity, and ensure that his wealth is not wasted

Without these conditions neither of the spouses can ever be happy. And the Europeans have claimed to have attained the pinnacle of marital bliss because they allow the fiancé to interact with his fiancée before the marriage in a manner that is very disturbing. It is quite possible for this relationship to continue like this for years whereby they are 'still getting to know each other,' to get to learn the other person's behavioral traits and personality so that they can be more compatible with each other in order to make the relationship more lasting. They know however that this is a big farce because neither of the spouses trust the other - as far as being faithful to each other - or being honest with their money. The husband cannot tell his wife to do anything because obedience is not an obligation for them. Hence, they are like two business or trade partners. And this illustrates the fallacy of the stipulation they must 'be in love' first.  

As for the argument that supports unrestricted interaction before the marriage contract, (this is also a fallacy) because they do not really get to know the true character of the other companion because each of them 'puts on an act' for the other, and feign signs of adulation for fear that the engagement will be called off. And almost none of them reveals his/her true character until they get married. And there are many incidents like this that prove this to be true. For indeed, this happened in Germany in the city of Bonn wherein a man was engaged to his fiancée for 20 years, and they lived together as a man would live with his wife. However, when they married, the marriage did not last but one year; all of it being disagreements, bickering, and argumentation, eventually ending in divorce."  

Taken from his book 'The rulings of al-Khula' in Islām' pg. 36-38.

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[1] He is a descendant of the Prophet's grandson Husayn (raḍī Allāhu ʿanhu). He was born in Morocco in 1311 (1893) and he died 1408 (1997). He is well known for his translation of  the meanings of the interpretation of the Noble Qurʾān and Sahih Al-Bukhari.   

Shaykh Hammād al-Anṣārī said about him, "In reality, I have not met anyone who has more knowledge in so many various subjects other than Dr. al-Hilāli. Forty-five years have passed and I have never seen anyone like him. He was fluent in languages such as Hebrew, German, English, Spanish, in addition to being a scholar in Arabic. He is my shaykh for I benefit from him greatly. He was Salafi in his ʿaqīdah, and if you read his book about al-Tawḥīd you would know that no one knows al-Tawḥīd in the Qurʾān like him."

Benefit: Treat Your Wife How You Want Your Daughter to Be Treated

In the Name of Allāh, the Ever Merciful, the Bestower of Mercy

  Shaykh Ibn ʿUthaymīn (may Allāh have mercy upon him) said:


"...Know that when you deal and interact with your wife then it is mandatory that you think of a [scenario] where a man is the husband of your daughter. How does he treat her? Would you be pleased for him to treat her with harshness and sternness? The answer is no. Therefore, do not be content with treating the daughter of another person in a fashion that you would not be pleased for your daughter to be treated. This principle should be known by all people."

Ash-Sharḥ al-Mumti' (vol. 12, p. 381)
Translated by Ḥasan al-Ṣūmali

Benefit: Two Boys Ask about Stepmothers and Lineage and a Married Couple Who Enter Islām

In the Name of Allāh, the Ever Merciful, the Bestower of Mercy

  Ustādh Mūsá Richardson answers questions from two boys concerning the status of a stepmother in regards to lineage and the status of a (married) couple who embrace Islām, having been unchaste pre-Islām. This exchange exemplifies the need and benefit in entertaining such topics from boys and girls, should they show a desire (and maturity) to understand them. Sheltering children from topics of relationships whilst exposing them to the vulgarity of popular culture and lowly discourse in society (via school etc.) is harmful and counterproductive.

From the course entitled: Fiqh Course: Marriage and Divorce (الملخص الفقهي), during the 1439 | 2018 Islamic Summer Courses

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Benefit: What If A Wife Provides for Her Husband?

In the Name of Allāh, the Ever Merciful, the Bestower of Mercy

  Ustādh Mūsá Richardson discusses the scenario where a husband not only does not provide for his wife but one where the wife is financially supporting the household (and the husband).  

From the course entitled: Fiqh Course: Marriage and Divorce (الملخص الفقهي), during the 1439 | 2018 Islamic Summer Courses

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