Should the wife follow her husband in matters of ikhtilāf (difference of opinion)?
Shaykh Ubayd ibn ʿAbdullāh al-Jābirī
Translated by ʿAbdullāh Lahmami
The Shaykh said:
The differences that occur between the scholars in this regards are of two types:
The first: (differences are) between Ahl al-Sunnah and the innovators.The people of ahl al-Sunnah are one side and the innovators are another side. With this regards she does not obey her husband if he is on the other side with the other position (of the innovators). She does not follow him in that regard.
The second: The differences based upon proof. Both parties of the scholars have proof which is sufficient for each of the parties. In this regards, if her husband follows a position and he is from the people of knowledge himself than she obeys him in the ijtihād (the striving he has made in order to follow a particular opinion based upon knowledge and proof) he has made.
However, if he is from the laymen than he has no right to make her follow him in the choice he has made because a blind follower cannot force another blind-follower to follow him.
As for the third type (the shaykh mentions a third type): one party of scholars have enough proof from authentic texts to make a consensus (ijmaa'). As for the other party of scholars, they only have for example; opinions. In this regards it is upon her to follow the texts and consensus (ijmaa') and if her husband is upon that than she obeys him upon that, if he only has opinion than she follows the texts and consensus (ijmaa')...